In fact, the same dependence, the subject ...

Cure it. " Dependent relationship sound familiar: the poor woman and her husband - an alcoholic, who spend on drink money, drunken insults her in every way, and maybe even beats. The wife is a feeling of pity, and her husband - with indignation. But here's the husband dopilsya to exhaustion, is in a terrible hangover and tearfully asks his wife: "Give me beer, my heart stops." This is her time had come to get even. "Serves you right, no one I suffer" - he heard in reply. Or women's compassion takes over. "Lost because people, by God, will be gone" - and sentenced the wife goes out for a beer. Drunk, the husband gets drunk again and creates all sorts of ugliness. "Well, how are you again? You promised! I'm with you exhausted "- killed his wife. Although sometimes, before falling back to wash down a man feels guilty and tries to please his "half", but then everything starts anew. So the relationship is surrounded by an alcoholic constructed within the alternate shift of three roles: Victim, the pursuer and Savior. These roles are to try on the husband, the wife, then someone from relatives or friends. The woman suffers from a drunken man's behavior - she sacrifice, suffering and resentment accumulates, after which comes the next stage - she Chaser threats, stringent requirements, failure in communication, reciprocal betrayals. After such an intense attack, she finds a drunken pity, because he too is suffering, we must help him and then turn on the role of the Savior. She cares for, protects, tries to heal, save. Then it all over again, and so the circle for many years. The constant change of roles creates the illusion of rich experiences of life. Changing roles, both implement their own internal needs: rescue, to be saved, feel their necessity, to show aggression, to demonstrate weakness to ask for help ... etc. So goes life in many pairs. The next meeting with the wife an alcoholic. The interviewee looks unattractive - very plump, not groomed, complains of her husband. "Perhaps your husband just as hard to stop drinking, how do you start losing weight" - I guess. It surprised her that never occurred. Living with an alcoholic, a woman can not afford not to follow their appearance. She has a decent excuse: "Not until now to help her husband." She knows that as long as he drinks - nowhere on her to stay. These people do not accidentally together: he can not live without vodka, as it is without him. Established relationships allow us to forget about their problems with health, appearance, not to engage themselves, their business, to cope with loneliness, have the excuse of personal insolvency. Codependency If a woman long lived with the patients with alcohol dependence and, despite all the difficulties of this life, is unwilling or afraid to part with it - it speaks of her codependency. In fact, the same dependence, whose subject is himself an alcoholic. Just as alcohol is an alcoholic needs to solve its internal problems, so with the help of an alcoholic, she decides her. Typical alcoholic wife. Her son from her first marriage, the now defunct due to drunkenness husband was a drug addict and died of an overdose.